Discussions about end of life
Discussions about end of life can be uncomfortable and awkward for everyone involved. No one wants to think about the time when a loved one will no longer be here.
Difficult as they are, these conversations are important and the earlier you can have them, the better. Decisions about a family member’s final wishes are easier to make before their health takes a turn or an emergency happens. Putting one’s affairs in order allows for the final days and weeks to be enjoyed as much as possible.
So how do you begin to have these important conversations?
STARTING THE CONVERSATION
Starting the conversation The hardest part of any project is getting started, and that’s true for planning for end of life, as well. After you’ve “broken the ice,” you’ll likely find that the discussion gets much easier from there.
Ideally, you would gather all the relevant people together so the matter can be discussed at one time and place. Sometimes the best option is to plan to do it during a gathering at the holidays. If it can’t be done in person anytime soon, don’t put it off. Schedule a group call or an online conference call instead. A detailed email is also an option and has the benefit of putting your words in documented form, which minimizes the potential for confusion.
No matter what method of communication you ultimately choose, what’s important is that you have the conversation and explore potential options for hospice care.
KEY POINTS TO TOUCH ON
You’ll want to make sure all the major issues are covered. This will include at least the following points:
- The location and contents of the will
- Life insurance policies
- End-of-life medical care
- Advance directives about DNRs (do not resuscitate orders), ventilators, etc.
- Power of attorney
GOING FORWARD
Once you’ve settled the legal and practical matters, take some time to think about how you would like to spend the remaining time you have with your loved ones. This may include doing favorite activities together, looking through scrapbooks and photo albums to reminisce about happy memories, and expressing your feelings to each other.
WE CAN HELP
Our dedicated and experienced team at Westlake Village Hospice can help you navigate these difficult discussions. Please feel free to reach out to us for advice and support.
How can I get started with hospice care for my loved one?
Please call us 818-644-5357 to discuss your loved one’s needs and schedule an assessment to determine eligibility and develop a personalized care plan.